“Thank God say, belle no be show-glass” This is a proverb in pidgin English, the best translation I could get to formal English is, “Thank God our stomachs aren’t see-through showcases”. The first time I heard a friend use this proverb, I laughed so hard. He used it in a context that depicted gratitude that we don’t look like the things we’re presently passing through, especially times when you have to dress up and show up despite being broke, or hungry or down and sometimes all three.
I’ve had to use that proverb from time to time when people had no clue what I was going through and judged by my costumes, sorry I meant clothes, and assumed everything was as prim and proper as I appeared. Allow me digress a liitle to say that, as crucial as venting to someone is; It’s more important to find the right person to talk with. It’s so the stuff we were going through isn’t used against us even when it’s behind us.
I’ve realized that everyone has issues, and the version of people we see most times is more or less a perception they want us to have it’s the reason the question, “How are you?” Almost now has an automated answer, “Fine” or “I’m ok” or for a few, “We thank God.” It’s because people don’t want to bother other people with their stuff these days. It’s the reason why people are hard and sometimes harsh too; It can be tough being alive. I have been around long enough to know that there a thousand and one battles are going on between the ears of almost every human you meet.It’s in this context I recommend this solution,
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”
The word Grace, five letters but possesses infinite meanings camouflaging with just about any context it finds itself in; but it always suggests more; lavishness, something to be grateful for, a gift, pardon, release that is far more than what a person deserves.Our speech being always gracious, means, responding with much more kindness and love than we receive. It means not reacting harshly to a harsh question; it means people feel better just by speaking with us.Seasoned with salt; means good to taste both to the chef, the speaker, and the listener, the eater. This is how we ought to answer every person, the angry person, the excited person, the sad person, the passionate person, the depressed person, the joyful person, and every person in between.
We might not be incapable of reducing depression and depressive thoughts on a large scale, but this we can do; we can be so gracious to people that they see life differently and receive joy and happiness just be crossing our paths. In doing so we reduce our nuisance value, and give them hope and a reason to smile again. Thanks for reading.