This one is for people like me, you’ll have to read to the end to know if you’re like me😂.
If you connect deeply with people you’ll realize that it’s only a matter of time before you have that friend of the opposite sex you would want more than friendship with.
It’s a situation most people find themselves in when we meet the awesomeness that people have and think we’ll want to have this awesomeness to ourselves for the rest of our lives, or at least we daydream to.
I feel at home writing on this because I’ve enjoyed and I’m still enjoying the bliss of a “more than friends” situation going North, but I’ve also been burnt by one that went South, actually more than one, maybe I’ll tell you about it in the future.
For the avoidance of doubt, if you are yet to get the drift, I mean desiring to be exclusive with someone who has become a friend, specifically a situation where those intentions weren’t there when both parties met. Of course, this is not just for the immediate gratification that comes with it, but having the long haul in mind.
This is a long discourse, one that we’ll need more than one Friday to discuss, I understand in my audience comprises people who have either acted on such desires or have been on the receiving end of a friend acting on such desires. I’ll talk to the former first.
That friendship will never be the same again, that singular action to state your case can be likened to a rubber band or any other material with the elastic property being stretched beyond its elastic limit, it will never return to its original shape. It will have to be done with utmost care, tact and wisdom.
It’s a get rich or die trying situation, it is a settle for the status quo or take a leap into the dark scenario.
I would advise you to let time pass, time tries a lot of things, friendships are no exceptions. Sometimes we have to ensure its not some sudden burst of testosterone or the feeling of desperation that if you don’t grab ‘her’ someone else will. Yes!! I used the pronoun her, it’s my brothers who find themselves in these situations more often than not.
There are no guarantees, except you know other means of influencing human will (this is a matter of National security and can’t be revealed here😂). In the end, you’re at the mercy of this friend accepting your offer of more than a platonic friendship.
Hope this helps your friendships.
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